Moving is overwhelming for kids whether or not a divorce is involved. And considering there is a divorce almost once every 36 seconds, it’s safe to say there are a lot of parents feeling this struggle right now. But introducing your kids to the new reality of a two-home lifestyle can be especially tricky.
Kids who are 12 or older are able to speak with the judge privately about their living situation preferences. But it’s important that you and your ex are cooperative even after going your separate ways to make introducing your kids to their new two-home lifestyle as graceful as possible.
Co-parenting can be difficult, but with a few tips and tricks, you can make things just a little bit easier for everyone. Consider the following tips you can use to make introducing your kids to their second home a breeze.
Give your kids their own rooms even if they’re not sleeping over
It’s important that you give your kids their own space in both homes even if they’re not spending the night at one of the parents’ houses. Your child’s bedroom gives them a sense of permanence, which can help them feel secure when they’re away from either parent.
Help your child set up and decorate their new room to make it feel like it’s their home, too. Let them pick a paint color or choose from a specific set of paint colors. Some of the top color trends of this year include oranges, tans, and jewel tones.
By putting their stamp on their new second home, your kids will feel less like they’re visiting “mom’s house” or “dad’s house” when they go between their homes and more like they have a life in two houses.
Help your child pack when they go to their new home
Chancing locations for your child can be stressful whether your divorce was amicable or not. Your kids might feel like they’re being taken away by a parent when they move from one home to another and back again.
To help remove that feeling, help your child pack for their stay with their other parent. Your ex ought to do the same thing when your kids are coming back to your house. Add an extra 25% more moving materials than you think you’ll need as a rule of thumb.
It’s also recommended to drive your kids to their other parent’s house. By helping them pack and driving them, your kids will feel like you’ve given the transition your stamp of approval and they won’t feel like they’re leaving you.
Make any repairs you need to make before your kids come over
If you’ve chosen to invest in a fixer-upper for your new home, you’re not alone. Approximately 68% of Americans under the age of 40 say they would invest in a fixer-upper.
But while you see a project you can take on as a new homeowner, your kids might see their new home as something temporary or somewhere they can’t stay. That said, try to fix up any home projects that need immediate repairs before your kids come over to see their new second home.
Not only will fixing these issues make your kids feel better about living in their second home, but it’ll also help you save money in the long run. Small plumbing leaks can waste up to 90 gallons of water per day, and the right roofing materials can save 30% on energy costs.
It’s no secret that adapting your kids to a two-home lifestyle can be challenging after going through a divorce. When 50% of American couples get divorced, it’s important to know what support you can offer your kids. But by following the tips above, you can help your kids feel safe and secure in their new second home.