Staying sane after a 1 hour commute

Work, work, work, an unfortunate, yet necessary aspect of the human experience. However, a 1 hour commute to work is not. Unfortunately, many workers commute 1 hour each way several times a week.

Spouse?
Children?
Over-bearing parents?
Demanding friends?
How on earth can a person keep up with the demands of regular life, when it takes 1 hour to drive to work.

Commute times

The average commute time in the United States is 27 minutes each way, but states like California and Georgia have it far worst. In California, more than 1.5 million workers have a 1 hour commute  to work. Not to be left behind, 9% of Georgia workers have a commuter of more than an hour.

A 1 hour commute does more than create a foul mood. Commutes lasting over 45 minutes cause chronic back aches, a rise in blood pressure, increases your risk of developing diabetes, and lowers the quality of sleep. Sleep? Yes. The Regus Work-Life Balance Index for 2012 found that people who commute for longer than 45 minutes each way reported lower sleep quality and more exhaustion than people with shorter commutes. No wonder so many Americans are exhausted!! Low quality of sleep has several ramifications. Did you know that your hair suffers when you don’t sleep well? 

Solutions?

A 1 hour commute is simply unsustainable. Slowly, your health will decline and your chances of developing heart disease and diabetes will increase.  There are many solutions. Some more feasible than others:

  • Move closer to work
  • Ask for help
    • Friends and family are often happy to help with obligations outside of work. Perhaps it is time to let your children spend a weekend at their grandparents house.
  • Crockpot cooking
    • Create simple, yet delicious meals in your crockpot. This will save your time AND money.
  • Recharge after the 1 hour commute.
    • Take 5 minutes to stretch your muscles and clear your mind before you walk into your home.
  • Ask your employer for flexible hours
    • Many employers are willing to stagger working hours to accommodate hectic schedules.
    • Before asking your employer, create a plan of action that outlines how the flexible schedules will benefit your team.
  • Find a new job.
    • LinkedIn and Indeed.com are great resources to seek new opportunities.

Things to say to after your daughter tells you she has bulimia

“I have bulimia!”

These are shocking words that almost no parent wants to hear. If your daughter has the courage to open up to you and talk about her struggle with bulimia, we have a few tips to guide you through the conversation.

  • Just listen Take the time to listen to what your daughter is telling you. Many conversations are a steady back and forth of spewing ideas with little listening. Listen carefully to what your daughter is saying. You will learn a lot by just listening.
  • Don’t rush to judgement or make assumptions. Try not to judge her about why she has bulimia or make assumptions about her mental or physical wellbeing.
  • Be caring Let your daughter know that you care about her and that you can be a shoulder for her to lean on.
  • Tell her that you care Your daughter is probably scared, nervous, and confused. She might even be depressed. Let her know how much you care about her. **Being caring and telling a person that you care are two completely different things. Sometimes a person needs to hear the words “I care about you”.
  • Do not give advice or criticism. Even though your daughter talking with you about bulimia is probably a very emotional and unsettling experience for you, be careful not to give advice or criticism. Take time to absorb what she has talked to you about before making a plan of what to do.

Things to do after your daughter tells you she has bulimia

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  • Learn about bulimia. Knowing about bulimia will help you understand what to expect.
  • Join a support group. There are many, many, many support groups for parents of children with bulimia. Support groups are important and will help you navigate through your mixed bag of emotions and feelings. We have compiled a list of free bulimia hotlines and support groups.

Partner Won’t Have Sex With You Because You’ve Gained Weight

Sexual intimacy between two individuals involves a mutual physical attraction. Depending on what your partner finds attractive, gaining a few or more unwanted pounds may cause you to lose your desirability factor. However, before you mull over about what he thinks of your body, consider what you think of yourself. Remember that gaining those extra pounds does not make you any less sensual. Your measure of self-esteem and how you view yourself as a sexual human being shapes your sense of sexuality.

If you and your partner are experiencing difficulties because of weight issues, do not try to solve the problem by ignoring it. Try to shed a few pounds. Also, look for new ways to increase intimacy level. Experiment and find out what turns them on. Buy yourself some new clothes that highlights your assets.

Do not let this be a road block in your relationship. Instead, work on what turns your partner off. To lose those unwanted pounds, you have to exert control over what you eat. Avoid eating foods that are high in sugar and calories. Limit your intake of cakes and ice cream, and stock up on healthy fruits and vegetables. Reduce fatty foods in your diet such as red meats and foods cooked in fatty oils. Opt for fish or for white meats such as chicken or turkey. (Be careful about eating too much fish. Fish contains mercury that is harmful if eaten too much). An effective weight loss plan could be attained by joining support groups either online or in your community that cater to people who are struggling with their weight.

It is also important that you engage yourself in physical activities. Spice up your time together by picking up a sport like tennis and swimming. Swimming is one of the fastest ways to get in shape. Swimming is also more friendly to your joints than running. Check out your local gym or aquatic center to see the pool schedules. This is also a good time for you and your partner to strengthen your relationship and experience new things. If you have a dog, walk your pooch together and enjoy those nice and peaceful bonding moments. You will soon realize that your quest for weight loss and fitness will not only result to you losing those pounds, it will strengthen your relationship with your partner especially if you involve him in your journey!

All your hard work will pay off one day when you see those great results. You will be healthier than ever and you will have your body back. Not to mention, your partner will surely not be able to resist you and you will have your sex life back- and it will be better than ever!

Where is your tribe? Making friendships after college

There are times when we all want to stand on the nearest rooftop, throw our hands to the sky, and scream with all our might! Whether it be because of a bad day at work, relationship problems, health struggles, or unexplained grrrness. We all experience it.

Sometimes, life is simply too good to be true. Everything goes as planned. You wake up with a big smile on your face, wanting to dance.

What do you do to combat the bad feelings? Experts tell us that a healthy diet with plenty of exercise helps ward off stress. When exercise is not easily fulfilled option and a healthy diet isn’t in the cards, then what? Talk with your friends.

How to find your tribe

Volunteering for a cause that captivates your soul is a great way to find friends who share your interests. The key is to volunteer consistently. Volunteering once a month does not provide enough face time to develop interest in someone or for them to develop interest in you. Volunteer as much as your time allows.

If volunteering is not an option, put more time and effort into the things you currently do. If you tout your children back and forth to swim practice 3 times a week, smile and start conversations with other parents. You might find someone interesting.

Be careful of developing friendships at work. Work relationships should be kept professional. Studies show that when coworkers’ personal lives become intertwined, objectivity suffers.

When friends are not available

When I feel less than stellar, and my friends are not available, I spend time in my garden. I grab my gardening boots, my 10-year old shovel, and I plant until my heart is content. Gardening takes me to a place of sweet serenity. There is something intensely calming about the feeling of dirt touching my hands and bare feet. I feel connected to the earth and everything else falls into place.

Please join me and become a part of my online tribe on Google Plus.

Stay Warm in a Free Country Jacket

There is something to say about an early morning walk, the gentle sun caressing your face, the quiet morning salutes you, preparing you for the day.

Early morning walks are every bit intentional as they are necessary in my life. However, 6 am can still be a bit brisk. Before heading out, I put on my Shale Softshell Jacket by Free Country® and I am guaranteed to be shielded with comfort and warmth by theluxurious butter pile fleece lining. During the extra cold days, the hoodie and the adjustable wrist bands protects me from wind and rain with style, utmost quality, and comfort.

Free Country outerwear and swimwear is available for purchase – Kohl’s, JC Penney, Sears, and on the FreeCountry.com website.

Why are we so fat? We should be completely fed up with Obesity

Fat! Fat! Fat!

I am completely fed up with obesity and you should too.

In most cases, obesity is completely unacceptable. In a country where we have significant opportunities to eat healthy, exercise, and take care of our health, there is no reason why 20% of adults over the age of 20 years old should be obese. We are prescribing ourselves a slow, painful death. We must stop now.

Did you know?
– Obesity is the #2 cause of preventable death in the United States
– 60 million Americans, 20 years and older are obese
– 9 million children and teens ages 6-19 are overweight
– Being overweight or obese significantly increases the risk of health conditions and diseases including: Breast cancer, Coronary heart disease, Type II diabetes, Sleep apnea, Gallbladder disease, Osteoarthritis, Colon cancer, Hypertension and Stroke

Childhood obesity is getting completely out of control. We are doing a major disservice to our children. Let’s stop it now!

– 4% overweight 1982 | 16% overweight 1994
– 25% of all white children overweight 2001
– 33% African American and Hispanic children overweight 2001

Why the significant increase in obesity rates?

Children don’t play outside anymore. They, along with adults spend countless hours a day sitting in front of a television or a computer. Fast food also plays a major part in the obesity epidemic. We ENHALE calories by the thousands when we eat at fast food burger joints. We need to go back to eating the original fast food: fruits and vegetables.

– Mama

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Graco Fastaction™ stroller: A must have for active parents

This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Graco but opinions are my own.

Every morning I’m grateful for the simplest things we take for granted, like for example breathing, for the ability to inhale and exhale without pain, grateful for the ability to walk and move around, thankful because I get to do one of the things that centers me the most; running.

Running has become an essential part of my life. It has helped me recover from the inevitable heartaches to the frustrations of my day.

gracoadulttray Now, that I am a mom, running is all about spending quality and reflective time for both my little one and I so naturally, comfortable running gear is essential for both of us.

The new Graco FastactionTM Fold Jogger Click ConnectTM is perfect for my runs. It holds my water, keys, wallet, and phone in the parent tray. It holds snacks and bottles for my little one in her own tray. It comes with a generous sized basket underneath for extra storage (which is great for when I want to take a sweatshirt, diaper bag or toys). The stroller also has reflectors for low-light visibility for my evening and early morning runs.

gracochildtray My child loves our jogs. With the multi-position reclining seat, convertible 3 or 5-point harness, the little one usually falls asleep before I finish my first quarter mile.

Another thing I appreciate about the Graco FastactionTM Fold Jogger Click ConnectTM is the large canopy. With a canopy so large, there is no way the sun will infiltrate and bother my child’s eyes. This stroller also has air-filled rubber tires that provide suspension for a smooth ride on any surface. The air- filled tires is a great feature because if a tire gets punctured, I can take the tire to my local bike shop for a quick fix.

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Graco’s NEW jogger is the ultimate crossover stroller, combining all the comfort and convenience features of a traditional stroller (FastAction Fold and Click Connect Technology) with performance and maneuverability of an all-terrain jogger.

As an added bonus, Graco’s innovative one-second, one-hand FastAction™ fold automatically locks & is self-standing which provides for easy, clean storage.

This post is sponsored by the Graco but opinions are solely my own.

– Mama

Pushing Motherhood: A journey of two best friends of advanced maternal age to become mothers

Women are waiting longer and longer to experience motherhood, and for some it may be too late.

Pushing Motherhood is a documentary about two best friends on the road to becoming mothers later in their reproductive lives. It is a must see for women of all ages. It gives insight on why women wait so long and provides valuable insights on what to do if a loved one or a family member is of ‘advanced maternal’ age.

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