She said what?

Hours became days. Days become weeks. Slowly, weeks became years.

Then she emailed. “Whatcha doin’?” Nothing more. Nothing less. A casual response as if we had talked just yesterday. Years had passed. I knew better. Something had happened. She was forced to write me off. Jealous husband? Possibly. But it must be deeper than that. A battered soul. Deep scars. Numerous events. Unwritten words. Bottled feelings. A mother lost, without my shoulder to cry on. Why?

Thousands of miles away, email has connected us. An unwanted connection, like the remnants of toilet paper stuck to the sole, from a public bathroom. Unwanted. Go away.

– T.M.R

Staying sane after a 1 hour commute

Work, work, work, an unfortunate, yet necessary aspect of the human experience. However, a 1 hour commute to work is not. Unfortunately, many workers commute 1 hour each way several times a week.

Spouse?
Children?
Over-bearing parents?
Demanding friends?
How on earth can a person keep up with the demands of regular life, when it takes 1 hour to drive to work.

Commute times

The average commute time in the United States is 27 minutes each way, but states like California and Georgia have it far worst. In California, more than 1.5 million workers have a 1 hour commute  to work. Not to be left behind, 9% of Georgia workers have a commuter of more than an hour.

A 1 hour commute does more than create a foul mood. Commutes lasting over 45 minutes cause chronic back aches, a rise in blood pressure, increases your risk of developing diabetes, and lowers the quality of sleep. Sleep? Yes. The Regus Work-Life Balance Index for 2012 found that people who commute for longer than 45 minutes each way reported lower sleep quality and more exhaustion than people with shorter commutes. No wonder so many Americans are exhausted!! Low quality of sleep has several ramifications. Did you know that your hair suffers when you don’t sleep well? 

Solutions?

A 1 hour commute is simply unsustainable. Slowly, your health will decline and your chances of developing heart disease and diabetes will increase.  There are many solutions. Some more feasible than others:

  • Move closer to work
  • Ask for help
    • Friends and family are often happy to help with obligations outside of work. Perhaps it is time to let your children spend a weekend at their grandparents house.
  • Crockpot cooking
    • Create simple, yet delicious meals in your crockpot. This will save your time AND money.
  • Recharge after the 1 hour commute.
    • Take 5 minutes to stretch your muscles and clear your mind before you walk into your home.
  • Ask your employer for flexible hours
    • Many employers are willing to stagger working hours to accommodate hectic schedules.
    • Before asking your employer, create a plan of action that outlines how the flexible schedules will benefit your team.
  • Find a new job.
    • LinkedIn and Indeed.com are great resources to seek new opportunities.

Mamas Monday Favorite: Raw Reserve

RawReserve

I like it RAW!!

Raw Reserve is a little miracle booster. Best served ‘straight-up’ 1 teaspoon with 8 ounces of water, it contains a blend of blue green algae, spirulina, chlorella, and sea vegetables harvested from the coast of Maine.

I was a loyal fan after one gulp. It doesn’t taste like much and after drinking it, your mouth may taste like a handful of dirt. Never fear, the health benefits are amazing and after a few weeks, you’ll start to notice the difference.

Its the only way I drink my kelp.

Vegan Lifestyle?

Have no fear, Raw Reserve is strictly vegan with no hidden bad ingredients.

Enjoy more life with ReVive

It’s rare that we consume a packaged drink that tickles our taste buds, but Revive vitality drinks did just that.

When we opened the bottle, a sweet fragrance engulfed us and we knew we were in for a treat.

Revive is extremely delicious. It has a fruity, nutty tastes that is a little on the powdery side. We didn’t mind the powder because the taste was so darn good.

REvitalizedrink

Action packed with 21 super fruits

  • apple: filled with antioxidants to help fight free radical cells in the body
  • apricot: yellow/orange colored tree fruit with tons of Vitamin A.
  • black raspberry: great source for Vitamin C.
  • blueberry: plant-grown, rich in antioxidants, helps support vitality.
  • blackberry: great for the digestive system, high content of fiber.
  • cranberry: found in shrubs, filled with polyphenol antioxidants.
  • dark sweet cherry: good source of Vitamin C and fiber.
  • elderberry: native to South America, rich in powerful antioxidants.
  • goji berry: bright orange-red color, native to southeastern Europe and Asia.
  • mangosteen: small purple fruit reigning from Indonesia, rich in potassium.
  • maqui: from Chile, filled with antioxidants, helps support vitality.
  • pear: filled with fiber that can support a healthy digestive system.
  • pomegranate: exotic red fruit native to modern day Iran, rich in antioxidants.
  • prickly pear: found in the Americas, tough skinned, rich in magnesium.
  • red sour cherry: helps support anti inflammatory benefits.
  • red grape: vine grown, filled with flavonoids.
  • red raspberry: from Europe/northern Asia, rich in Vitamin C and gallic acid, helps support vitality.
  • seabuckthorn: reddish orange color, grown on shrubs, rich in Vitamin C.
  • strawberry: rich in folate, Vitamin C and flavonoids.
  • white grape: vine-grown, extremely rich in antioxidants yumberry: native to eastern Asia, helps support vitality.

ReVive is gentle on your digestion and does not give you a sudden energy boost or jitters. It is made from fruits and nothing chemically manufactured in a lab. No added sugar, no preservatives AND ReVive contains 100% juice. ReVive works naturally with long term benefits.

Busy and on the go? This compact 2.5 oz. bottle can placed in purse, man-bag, or a gym bag without taking up much space.

We recommend purchasing at least 6 ReVives at a time because you will gobble them up and want more!

*Disclaimer: We received samples from ReVive to try, but the opinions discussed above are SOLELY our own.

Breville Juice Fountain Duo, fresh juice at it’s finest

We love to juice. When someone says “Fresh Juice”, our eyes light up! In our office, the mighty roar of the The Breville Juice Fountain Duo echoes through the walls every day. Followed by a line of eager, thirsty coworkers.

The Breville Juice Fountain Duo is our favorite juicer. We purchased it about 5 years ago and after extensive use, have had no problems. It’s powerful machine is just like new.

Fresh juice? Yes!
Fresh puree? Yes!
Powerful motor? Yes!
Noisy? Yes! Don’t use this if a baby is sleeping
Blended drinks with 100% fresh juice? Yes!
Commercial-quality? YES!

Our favorite mixture is: Carrot, Apple, Golden beet, celery, lime.
**Cilantro, garlic, or ginger can be added to give an extra KICK

Things to say to after your daughter tells you she has bulimia

“I have bulimia!”

These are shocking words that almost no parent wants to hear. If your daughter has the courage to open up to you and talk about her struggle with bulimia, we have a few tips to guide you through the conversation.

  • Just listen Take the time to listen to what your daughter is telling you. Many conversations are a steady back and forth of spewing ideas with little listening. Listen carefully to what your daughter is saying. You will learn a lot by just listening.
  • Don’t rush to judgement or make assumptions. Try not to judge her about why she has bulimia or make assumptions about her mental or physical wellbeing.
  • Be caring Let your daughter know that you care about her and that you can be a shoulder for her to lean on.
  • Tell her that you care Your daughter is probably scared, nervous, and confused. She might even be depressed. Let her know how much you care about her. **Being caring and telling a person that you care are two completely different things. Sometimes a person needs to hear the words “I care about you”.
  • Do not give advice or criticism. Even though your daughter talking with you about bulimia is probably a very emotional and unsettling experience for you, be careful not to give advice or criticism. Take time to absorb what she has talked to you about before making a plan of what to do.

Things to do after your daughter tells you she has bulimia

:

  • Learn about bulimia. Knowing about bulimia will help you understand what to expect.
  • Join a support group. There are many, many, many support groups for parents of children with bulimia. Support groups are important and will help you navigate through your mixed bag of emotions and feelings. We have compiled a list of free bulimia hotlines and support groups.

Partner Won’t Have Sex With You Because You’ve Gained Weight

Sexual intimacy between two individuals involves a mutual physical attraction. Depending on what your partner finds attractive, gaining a few or more unwanted pounds may cause you to lose your desirability factor. However, before you mull over about what he thinks of your body, consider what you think of yourself. Remember that gaining those extra pounds does not make you any less sensual. Your measure of self-esteem and how you view yourself as a sexual human being shapes your sense of sexuality.

If you and your partner are experiencing difficulties because of weight issues, do not try to solve the problem by ignoring it. Try to shed a few pounds. Also, look for new ways to increase intimacy level. Experiment and find out what turns them on. Buy yourself some new clothes that highlights your assets.

Do not let this be a road block in your relationship. Instead, work on what turns your partner off. To lose those unwanted pounds, you have to exert control over what you eat. Avoid eating foods that are high in sugar and calories. Limit your intake of cakes and ice cream, and stock up on healthy fruits and vegetables. Reduce fatty foods in your diet such as red meats and foods cooked in fatty oils. Opt for fish or for white meats such as chicken or turkey. (Be careful about eating too much fish. Fish contains mercury that is harmful if eaten too much). An effective weight loss plan could be attained by joining support groups either online or in your community that cater to people who are struggling with their weight.

It is also important that you engage yourself in physical activities. Spice up your time together by picking up a sport like tennis and swimming. Swimming is one of the fastest ways to get in shape. Swimming is also more friendly to your joints than running. Check out your local gym or aquatic center to see the pool schedules. This is also a good time for you and your partner to strengthen your relationship and experience new things. If you have a dog, walk your pooch together and enjoy those nice and peaceful bonding moments. You will soon realize that your quest for weight loss and fitness will not only result to you losing those pounds, it will strengthen your relationship with your partner especially if you involve him in your journey!

All your hard work will pay off one day when you see those great results. You will be healthier than ever and you will have your body back. Not to mention, your partner will surely not be able to resist you and you will have your sex life back- and it will be better than ever!

Chicken Pesto Pasta a Fresh & Easy Meal

Fresh & Easy is our 1 stop shop for groceries.

For busy parents on the go, Fresh & Easy will make your life easy. Fresh & Easy aisles are wide and stroller friendly. You won’t find a lot of last minute items like candy or magazines crowding the cashier lane so you can get your stroller in and out of the store with ease.

We love to cook, during our latest Fresh & Easy shopping adventure, we purchased ingredients to make Chicken Pesto with Whole Wheat Pasta.

This is how we made it:

And this is what it looked like:

chickenpestopasta

We also like Fresh & Easy because the prices are extremely affordable and the shelves are always fully stocked. In the rare occasion that an item on our grocery list is not on a shelf, a Fresh & Easy associate is always happy to check inventory to see if the item is in storage waiting to be placed on a shelf or on back order. Fresh & Easy can also special order an item for you. Just ask one of the managers.

Looking for organic produce? Fresh & Easy has that too! They really have everything!

As strong environmental activists, it is important to us to support stores that are doing everything they can to maintain a low carbon footprint. Much to our satisfaction, Fresh & Easy is ahead of the curve. All of their display and shipping materials are recycled or reused. This includes materials like cardboard, paper, plastic shrink wrap, pallets, totes, crates or damaged hand baskets. All of their delivery trucks are use aerodynamic, fuel efficient trailers to help minimize their CO2 footprint on the road.

**This is a sponsored post, but opinions are our own. We have been loyal customers of Fresh & Easy since their first stores opened in Southern California over 10 years ago. We were extremely excited to write a sponsored post about our experiences and thoughts about Fresh & Easy. The sponsorship we received was an added bonus!

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

Next Page »