Single Parenting, Dating and the Bedroom

Is it safe to have sex again? Well maybe. Recently I moved from a one-bedroom to a more spacious two-bedroom apartment and for the first time in two years I have my own private space.

Excuse me while I do a little dance.

Does this mean I’m ready to date? How do single parents do it? Do they sneak in the “friend with benefits” after hours and lock the bedroom door? Or do they only date when the child is at the home of the other custodial parent? What happens if (gasp!) the child walks in and…. You fill in the rest.

Thoughts of celibacy are spinning in my head.

Which brings me back to the bedroom.

Yes I’m a parent, but I’m still a person too. I’ve spent a year with the “tap turned off” if you know what I mean, I’d like to go out on a date.

New bedroom and it’s time to turn the “tap” back on.

Other single parents please chime in, but here’s what I think:

Be discreet, not everyone needs to know you’re dating or turning on the “tap.”
Put a lock on the bedroom door. Train the kids that your room is your private space.
No need to introduce everyone you date, to your kids. Not everyone loves a parade.

- Aunt B